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HOW TO REALISE YOUR PERSONAL POWER

Updated: May 10

You are so free, you can choose bondage. - Abraham Hicks

An image of artwork portraying a female held tightly by her throat with a male hand with the word love tattooed.

Have you ever experienced someone you just thought of calling you or bumping into you? Maybe you remember seeing something that you previously imagined, dreamed of or even got for yourself show up again (and again) in your reality? Do you recall being hurt, disappointed or experiencing something that you feared most to happen? And you will surely know the feeling of seeing someone else have the thing that you've been wanting (a partner, a new computer, a car, job, house or vacation, ...).


That is the power that you hold, my dear.


EVERYTHING HAPPENS TWICE


Your imagination is a well of consciousness and contains everything that you have and will ever experience, including this moment. In it reside all that you ever held in your mind, whether briefly or intensely, and so all that is a part of your reality already, whether seen or unseen. When you notice things, events and conditions with your physical senses, it is because you chose to give them your focus in your imagination first. All that you hold in you mind's eye holds the power for you to see it, for it to be realised in your reality, because you are powerful.


FROM A SINGLE FLEETING THOUGHT INTO A THING


Your mind is a link between the invisible and the visible. Your imagination is the (only) source of "creation" of all that you experience, no matter how small or far away you see it. Everything you are perceiving has been made aware of in your imagination first. E-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g. Creation is not the right word, really, as everything already exists. It is your focus and your awareness that makes things appear in your life. You are the torch that shines the light onto anything you wish to focus on. The good, the bad, the lucky, the sad.


Many people speak of things they wish to avoid, thinking that having their guard up and hurt alerting googles will prevent them from future instances of the same. They speak of hurts that happened to them or others, in order to keep themselves safe. Sadly, this couldn't be more attractive to the experience of the essence of the same thing over and over again.


You can change jobs, change partners or group of friends, change the books you read or the food you eat but all will remind you of the same feelings if you do not chose differently how you see things first.


WE ALL COME HERE TO REMEMBER WHO WE TRULLY ARE


There are two main emotions that I'll discuss here briefly that we all start with early that will show you your relationship to your personal power right now. I see them as a sister and a brother, two sides of the same coin.


They are called shame and guilt, and I used to live with them. From as early as I can remember I was learning to translate all my personal experiences and origins to mean that I was powerless because that was what I felt at one point. Little did I know, I was making myself an antenna for those very emotions and, unknowingly to myself, scanned my whole environment in search for them.


Once, I attracted an infidelity in a partnership, however, looking back now I smile at how insanely accurately I created the whole scenario. Convinced I was not good enough, which was my sing of shame and powerlessness, I looked for the indications of being unworthy and unlovable and there she was, his coworker. Seeing them together on a work night out I made a quick judgement that they had something going on and in a few weeks of intense consideration of what their connection might have meant, I lead myself to discovering them meeting behind my back. I remember it so well, I came back from a travel to a cleaned up apartment and it made me think - she was here and they have hooked up. My mind didn't need any proof, it would take anything it could get - a clean apartment! And it run with it. It got messy.


Growing up I learned so well to live in shame and guilt. I assimilated these feelings and took them as myself, my character, my fault, my sin. I took them as a reason that I cannot be loved, appreciated, chosen, successful, abundant or merely taken care of, by myself or others. I believed I was powerless.


Few 'unlucky' relationships later, I fell in love with the most wonderful man. We clicked right on. I thrived in the feeling of being with him. I was bathing and basking in the love we shared. For a little while. Until I remembered my shame and guilt, and all started falling apart. The break up lead me on the path of looking for that bad thing that I was, that I must have had in me that caused this and all the other things to fail in my life. I needed to find it, destroy it, bleach myself out of it and hope for remorseful coming back to the person that could be once more graced with the incredible feeling of love.


All negative feelings are a (very positive) symptom of rejection of personal power. The nasty, lethargic, confusing and fearful emotions are telling us that we are false in our assumptions. To feel shame is to believe that one is or was without power to affect the hurtful situation. To feel guilt is to believe that the power we or others hold is misused. Both type of sensations speak to the rejection of personal power, that of ourselves and of others.


Now, years later, I can see clearly that it was all an illusion I generated for myself. Personal power is much more than just responsibility. It's guidance, grace, love and ability to respond from the place of knowing that all is here for one's good. However, it is impossible to see the good or the opportunity for it from the place of rejection of that power.


Why did I "create" all the unpleasant things in my life? To realise my personal power. To remember that I am the one who holds the power to chose for myself. Why did the things that happen to you or others you hold dearly in your mind cause suffering? For those affected to realise their power. It is not a lesson that is meant to humble or destroy us. It is an opportunity to wake up to the potential of what our focus can do for us.


Ask yourself

- If I would allow myself to assume, even for a minute, that I am powerful, how would I see myself now? - If I would allow myself to assume, even for a minute, that I am powerful, how would I feel about my past and my future now?


YOU ARE POWERFUL


If you struggle to see any good behind the hurtful memories, I strongly recommend you grab yourself Colin Tipping book "Radical forgiveness", and do the exercises outlined in the book. It's a game changer!



Claim your power now, it will take you places you have never even dreamed of reaching before.


YOU ARE POWERFUL





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